Why Do People Give?
The June 21, 2010 issue of Time ran the story “Health Checkup: Hope in the long battle against malaria” by Alex Perry. In the story is a sub story about Ray Chambers, an extremely successful businessman turned philanthropist who is the present U.N. special envoy for malaria. Ray made a fortune inventing the concept of leveraged buyout, but wasn’t happy with his life. He started giving away his fortune by promising to pay the college tuition of 1000 inner city kids “if they stayed the path.” Ray enjoyed the experience a lot more than making money. In the space of the next 5 years he gave away $50 million. The sub story about Ray got me thinking about why people give.
Some (most?) give out of duty. We give because we must. Most of us get more joy out of deductions than paying taxes. Many give out of a genuine sense of loyalty and commitment. Tithing, supporting aging parents, children in trouble, missionaries, politicians, universities, the local radio station, and other causes we believe in represent this kind of giving. Some giving results from coercion and trickery. I will say no more on this to keep out of trouble.
Some people, like my wife, give for the joy of it and the desire to do something nice for someone else. Some of us really enjoy giving. Some of us give grudgingly. Most of us don’t have tons to give. Some do. Why does my wife find it so easy to give? It’s not because she has a ton of cash. Bill and Melinda Gates have become famous for giving away money. Lots and lots of money. So has Bono. Gates used to be famous for starting Microsoft (some spell it Micro$oft) but is becoming better known for his philanthropy. It is interesting that he really got into this after he got married. Maybe Melinda has more to do with this than meets the eye. He was so successful for so long at making lots and lots of money. I wonder if he’s a lot happier now that he’s giving it away. I think Ray is, or at least that’s what the article lead me to assume.
I must confess that I don’t find it easy to give money away. I do give it away and at least it doesn’t bother me too much when I do so. But I don’t give it away like my wife does. What’s her secret? Someone said, ‘In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive’”‘ (Acts 20:35). Many recognize these words but perhaps are not aware of the context. Paul said this as he was getting ready to depart for Jerusalem probably on a relief mission. It was also going to be his last. Paul knew how to give money away. He’s famous for starting churches but should really be more famous for collecting money. Paul believed in the redistribution of wealth. He got that from Jesus. The verse from Acts refers to these words: “Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse lepers, cast out demons. You received without paying; give without pay” (Matt 10:8). You might think that’s easy for him to say. He had no car payment, no credit card debt, no house, no kids to put through college.
Why does it seem hard to give money away? No doubt part of the problem is our addiction to consumerism. But there’s something more fundamental. I think it may have a lot to do with our need to feel secure in the present. We don’t really think too much about the future, the past is over with and can’t be changed, but we become fearful in the present, for this is where we live, and our security seems most vulnerable right now. Something bad could happen any moment. Of course, something good could happen any moment too. But the world has a lot of bad people in it and a lot of bad things are going on all the time. In the same issue of Time is this quote: “Those who at times are not good, let them for just four weeks be good,” Jacob Zuma, president of South Africa, speaking of hope for peace during the World Cup and desire that evil people would take a break for just four weeks.
So what if the times are not good and there are bad people out there. Naked we came into the world and so we will leave it, or at least we won’t take anything with us when we go. In the meantime we will probably make it to tomorrow in about as good shape as today, whether we give anything away or not. It is even possible that we’ll make it to tomorrow fine if we give something away today. We might even enjoy it. That’s the best reason to give. A pastor friend says we should give not out of duty but out of joy.
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Stu – great thoughts. I was listening to NPR yesterday, and heard a story of the sadness that those in the South were feeling, for they were unable to “give” to the cause of cleaning up the oil spill, or help in any other real constructive ways. They mentioned that, after Katrina, those who were carpenters were able to give of their time and build houses; the same with plumbers, electricians, and nearly all other professions. But there is the sense that people don’t even know “how” to give during this disaster.
I think this relates a lot to do with your observation of feeling secure in the present. This is a mammoth disaster, that seems nearly unstoppable. Yet, the thing that might be most difficult is that people can’t seem to “give anything” to make themselves feel “secure in the present.”
Anyway, thought this was a great post. Blessings